Naked People…Naked Thoughts…
Jenn wrote this about Jul 1, 2009 for the 2009 category.
Just like anyone else, we have a facebook page:
first name: BareNaked
last name: Family
On this page we update our status often using it as a tool for the things we hear & come across… and fun. The other day Greg sent me a great message in email that I thought was brilliant and represented our life and beliefs. It was one of those non-cheesy words of wisdom you come across every so often and are glad to find something that you can relate to without selling your dignity on behalf of some Hallmark crap. I decided to post it on Facebook and didn’t think it would start a conversation at all. Maybe a few ‘like’ approvals from fellow friends, but it did more than that. The quote reads:
“I felt I would live a long, lonely, useless life and die alone and unmissed (did I mention that I never bothered filling out any grad-school applications?) It’s self-indulgent, I know, but this is what happens to the overachieving but essentially useless children of parents who raised their children to do well on tests but failed to equip them with the poison-tipped spurs of true ambition.”
Now to me the first thing I see is common sense. What does happen when we focus on teaching our kids only one side of the spectrum? Wouldn’t that naturally limit their success or horizons? And who wouldn’t want to give their kids the whole picture? I’m thinking why only teach them what others want them taught? Why not reach out beyond the schoolbooks and the homeschool curriculum’s and bring them an unprecedented wealth of knowledge and experience? Why not encourage them to take risks…HUGE risks and learn about the profound feeling of failure? Because after all without failure there would be no success and without that two sided view they would never understand. Which brings me back to the fact that there is more to learning than a regimented way of learning, which is why I connected to this quote.
I have to say that it was till I got the one and only ‘dislike’ comment on Facebook about this quote that it really made me think. The person that ‘disliked’ it is someone that I respect immensely, my sister in law who is a public school teacher and has been for sometime. I know that she would be the teacher that is funny, caring, and really good at what she does. The rest of the people that commented on the post are homeschoolers and fellow travelers that have seen both sides to learning – the ones who were taught in public school and the ones who are now teaching as homeschoolers.
It was the fellow homeschoolers and travelers that really liked and commented on this post. But it was her ‘dislike’ of this post that was still on my mind as I went to bed. Why did she ‘dislike’ this post so much? How many times have I put up with the cheesy Hallmark sayings about religion, teachers, and Family that we have seen for years? Seriously, does no one else see the damage from years of receiving the mindless sentiments from sayings like these?
By posting that quote on Facebook, I was in no way trying to push my way of thinking. I was simply glad to find it and wanted it on my page as a characteristic feature on my Facebook page. Besides, the days of intensely trying to prove to their world that we are awesome and our way of thinking is better than what we were brought up with are long gone. We have learned to be humble through the constant struggle we went through with our egos as we ventured out on this new life ten years ago pushing close people away that didn’t see it our way. We backed off and learned that we appreciate others freedom of expression the way we appreciate our own. For us, that looks like listening and respecting. Valuing that it’s ok that for everyone to have their beliefs and outwardly show their love for something.
When I was laying in bed, I started to think about her ‘dislike’ comment again. Why does one have to go out of the way to tell me that they ‘dislike’ something I posted on my page? Why can’t they read it and go ‘hmmm…interesting. I dislike that’ in the privacy of their own head? Why was it so important to reach out and tell me about it? Was I recruiting others to believe in my ways? Was I slamming the public school system? No…the quote indicated that the learning process fed to the masses is not the only way as well as something that I related to from personal experience. I found peace in this thought that I had and it inspired me to write this blog as I went to bed last night…
If a Jehovah Witness came to my door and shared with me their beliefs, I know that I would listen, respect, and probably make up some lie that I was getting ready to leave or something. But I would and always have listened to them and even taken their literature out of courtesy even though we have different views. Not because I feel pressured or am interested, but because I respect what they are doing even though it’s way different from my beliefs. No matter what they were saying or trying to sell me on it would never cross my mind to tell them that I ‘dislike’ their belief. Instead I would treat them with respect and let them say their peace knowing that it gives them the satisfaction they need for their work. The point is not to like or dislike, it’s really about one’s thoughts…and how can that satisfy everyone in the world?