Shit, my kids are growing up…

Waking up the other day, I found myself a crying mess.  The kind of emotional girl crying that was set off by commercials and making me Tivo every showing of Father of the Bride, parts one AND two.  I realized that for the first time in years, we we’re entering a new phase of parenting.  One that requires less of us making peanut butter sandwiches and juice for lunch and allows us the so called freedom of not caring when the last time the the kids ate.  Sound nice, but when you’ve based your life around the nurturing and caring of parenthood, it’s like being let go of your long time duty for old age.

Our son is turning eighteen this year and while we’re not the kind of Family that’s been counting down the days till we can kick him out, we are aware that we are now living with a young adult.  One that is happy to continue to live with his Family and not ready to get away from us.  But, as our kids have grown up in the same room for years, living on top of each other in the RV across the country, and shared a room in our small place in Austin we realized that it’s time to honor his space so that he feels independent even among his Family.   It’s not long before our girls are right behind him and we realized that we are entering the phase of letting go. So, we laid in bed and cried for about a week recalling all of the fun memories of being parents to such amazing kids.  It was one of the most bonding times we’ve had as a mom and dad.

I thought about what I was really wanting.  Remembering how much we’ve always talked about going back to our other home, Washington, I thought how much our son had always loved the Pacific Northwest.  I know that once he’s on his own he’ll eventually head back there , even if for a little while and the thought of living that far away from our kid made me realize that’s where we need to be.  All of a sudden everything started to make sense.  The idea of home became perfect and clear and the renewed energy of being back in Washington literally made me so happy I could hardly contain myself for the next few weeks.  All I thought about was Washington envisioning this place with space, gardens, and green grass everywhere.  A place where the kids will want to stay with us and a place where they’ll want to come visit.  My heart became full of female motherly juice and I found myself making peace with letting go through creating the vision of what home now means in the next chapter of parenthood.   Most people are thinking of retiring, selling the house, and traveling when their kids leave home and here I was doing the complete opposite, thinking of the home where my kids will bring their Families.  So, in true form I finally looked at Greg as we were walking around the neighborhood and told him ‘we need to move back to Washington.   And I’d like to be outta here before summer and the hundred degree weather.  I know this seems outta the blue, but it’s not.  It’s where we’ve always known we belong’.  He was nice enough to listen and take into consideration what had to be done to even entertain this thought.  Even though he was feeling the same way about letting go of our kids, he is a right brainer and would have to work through the details while I was practically one foot out the door already.

I love him with all my heart and am glad that we made babies together.

Our work as social media geeks and freelance writing make this possible more than ever before.  Taking our work with us is such a gift and we are grateful that we have always stuck to our guns when it came to defining the kind of work we wanted for our Family.  We had a vision years ago of a Family business and we’re reaping the rewards of years of hard work and sacrifices.  And it never had anything to do with money, but everything to do with bringing our Family closer together.  And we’ve done it.

17 Replies to “Shit, my kids are growing up…”

  1. There are many phases of parenting. Each one challenging and rewarding. We all make them up as we go along!! There are no directions, just instinct. You guys are better at it than most!
    You know, of course, that we will track you down in Washington. 🙂

  2. Just wanted to say that your family is such and inspiration for me. I love to see the adventures you experiences as a family..
    Maybe if you do come back to Seattle I can meet your great family…

    Kasey

  3. Vicki, we fully intend on having you guys track us down! It would be great to camp with you guys in some real special places that we love up there. So, yes to that!

  4. Man, I love you thoughts. I hope to be as great as a woman as you are one day. And I’m glad I have such a kick butt woman as a friend and someone I can look up to at this point in life, where I’m shaping who I’m gonna be!

  5. Thank you! I love you so much. You’re already an outstanding woman. One who I absolutely enjoy being around and I love your sense of humor. I love your willingness to get out in the world. I love your love for Family and friends. I love you forever and ever as one of my dearest friends. I just freaking adore you Auvi…your creepy older lady friend…Jenn

  6. Hey there Mel! Great to see you out here. We are heading out hopefully Tuesday. Lots to do between now & then. Party Mon night at Stephanie’s. Would love to see you there.
    LOVE your blog! Great to be connected in this wide world of webbin’.
    -Greg

  7. Hi!
    Just wanted to say thank you for this wonderful post! I was literally feeling teary about the same thing when I checked out your website…synchronicity rocks! It is just what I needed to hear! Motherhood never ends…it just keeps morphing!
    p.s. We were once a burbs-living, over-scheduled, unhappy family. Your website was one of the things that gave me hope and allowed us to pull the kids from school, move, and get happy! We love our flexible, free, CHOSEN life now…and I want to thank you for being an inspiration!

    Kirsten

  8. Not sure you remember us, but our families met in Yellowstone several years ago. We were traveling around the USA in our RV at the time. We moved to England for almost 4 years and now since returned back to Texas. We are living in San Antonio now. Wow, your kids have all grown. Our son, Brendan, is 14 now and a freshman in high school. With all of our travel experience, we too started our own travel website at http://www.smart-travelers.com. We have lots of pictures and a contact us page. Send us a note sometime.

    Cooper’s

  9. Hey Guys, That is awesome what you all are doing !!! Have been wanting the same for my family and have been looking up info on doing so. One important question I have is I cant seem to find how you can home school without a permanent address, once I find how to do this MAN were gone. Do you know maybe how to go about this HELP!!!!!! the only way to find out is talk to someone who’s doing it thats freaking awesome!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    Thanks
    The Williams Family
    Poconos Pennsylvania

  10. Thank you! You should look into the Escapees rv club. It’s a mail forwarding service and provides you a address. Lots of fulltimers use them and we used them for years. They are based out of Texas and you don’t have any homeschooling laws there. At this point we’ve learned not to worry so much about the logistics and could care less if we needed to have an address. We did it by the book and ever needed all the extra hassle the rules created. Unless you’re bound by laws in a state, then just get out there and do it!

  11. Good to see you arrived here in Seattle!!! We also love to hike and go with our local group ( Trestle Homeschool) every Thurs. ( sometimes on Tues)..This week we are going to Barclay Lake on Tues.!!! Well hopefully we can meet your awesome family sometime!!

    Kasey in Everett….

  12. I just met your kids at the Salmon Days Festival and they are just charming. You’ve done a wonderful job raising them. I’m seriously looking into the whole, traveling with our kids and home-schooling, thing. I’ve thought about it for years.

  13. Hi Tricia,

    Thanks for commenting and the kind words. Hope you found the stories from our travels- ‘bnf1.0’ links to them before we got all setup on a blog.

    Best,
    -Greg+

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *